Past relationships are a funny thing. After they are over, we do one of two things. Either we personify our past lovers as everything we hate in the world: “How could I have ever loved such an egotistical, unrefined moron?” Or, we romantically glorify them, inducting them into our own private relationship shrine/hall of fame, requiring that all future romantic interests live up to the impossible standards we project onto our past lovers, so that no matter how wonderful, the new guy always falls short. Am I right?
Lord knows I am guilty of both.
So, how do we break the cycle? How do we forget about "dude number one" and accept "dude number whatever" for who he is, or who he might be? Watch the movie 500 Days of Summer (I saw it this weekend and thoroughly enjoyed it) for the answer. Perhaps all we can hope is that the cycle continues, that after summer there is a fall, that after fall there is a winter. Perhaps, life without the next step in the cycle is just 500 days of summer. Perhaps, it's time for fall.